| My rose bud with lissencephaly
My beautiful red rose was born on 23 January 2007 by an emergency C-section. Two weeks early because of complications with the umbilical cord.
Weighing only 2.626 kg’s the first thing that went through my mind when holding her was “How am I ever going to get her big?” Her tiny face was identical to her older sister. Whilst bonding with Rilandi the paediatrician mentioned that she was amazed that Rilandi’s hand palms had only a few minor lines. Rilandi’s Agpar count was 8/10 and later 9/10.
The next morning the paediatrician did the routine check on Rilandi and mentioned that I should take good care with her since ‘red heads’ tend to get bugs and illnesses very easily. I immediately asked God to cancel the negative words spoken on my new born. Rilandi wasso perfect as she was lying in the crib. As if she then already knew what a cute little girl she’s going to be. She took to breast feeding without any hassle!
At the age of four month’s Rilandi was admitted with the Rota-virus. I could not leave my tiny rose alone at hospital and slept next to her bed for a week. At last we went home, just to come back very unexpectedly the next day for the RS virus. Another 8 days admitted and two hourly nebulised for the first three days, again we went home for a short stay. We came back to hospital the next day with Bronchiolitis! Rilandi was really suffering this time round. She had to be tube fed. It broke my heart to see my little rose so sick and helpless.Back home again after a terrifying 10days we were so relieved to be home. A few days later myself and Klarien, now 17yrs noticed Rilandi made strange eye movements, as if she wanted to sneeze. At first I thought something was irritating her nose. I recorded the scene on my cell phone, just in case.
Rilandi got middle ear infection a few weeks later. We took her to the paediatrician, due to our concern for the extremely high fever. I also showed the video clip to the paediatrician and he was a bit concerned and said he’ll arrange for an EEG whilst she’s in hospital for the ‘grommet’ operation. He mentioned that it does not seem to be a normal reaction. I was devastated by his words. But I prayed to God to not let anything be wrong with our little girl. The EEG doctor did not make any eye contact with me during the EEG and afterwards I tried to get more info from him, but he did not want to discuss his findings with me. He only mentioned that the EEG showed that there is definitely abnormal brain activity.
Rilandi was booked for an MMR. I thought by now, I’m going to have a breakdown, this can’t be true!The brain scan confirmed West Syndrome and she started off getting Hypsarrythmia with Infantile Spasms; we had no idea what this was. The paediatricians were waiting for us to return from the MMR procedure. When we entered her room she had the Encyclopaedias’ and a few medical books open in front of her on the desk. She welcomed us with a hug and said she is so sorry to bring us the bad news but this day is the funeral of our baby daughter. She said “I’m taking away your daughter from you today; she will never marry, have children, go to a school or be like other kids. She will always be a baby” I was shuttered by her words. I cried like never before. My heart broke into pieces. She also mentioned that there are ‘homes’ for kids like this and we might consider putting Rilandi in a home where she will be happy!
Still I had no idea what all these medical terms meant. To me it was words without any meaning, hard words explained in the harshest words any one can imagine! The next day we had an appointment with the Paediatric Neurologist. I had no tears left. The doctor explained that Rilandi has an extremely rare brain condition named “Lissencephaly”. She comforted us by saying Rilandi’s brain stem is normal, the corpus colossus and Rilandi had ‘curves’ on her brain unlike most of these cases who had a total smooth brain. Rilandi was on cortisone injections for the next ten days. I went home for the first time since Rilandi was admitted. I was exhausted. I had no feelings left. When I looked at Rilandi I could not imagine all the things the doctor said about her.
I started praying day and night against all the negative words spoken about my little rose. I pleaded to God to cancel all negative thoughts and words spoken against her. Klarien came to me and asked me to promise that we will not treat Rilandi any different from another child. She asked me that we treat her little sister as a normal child with special needs. We were both committed in giving the best to our little rose. We immediately started with baby massaging. This is still done every night after her bath. She enjoys it, and tickling is obviously part of this game.
God has sent her a wonderful new daddy who does not have any kids of his own and loves Rilandi as if she were his own blood. God is great!Rilandi was send to hospital again to make sure that the food ends up where it’s supposed to and not in the lungs… which might be the reason for her bad chest and not gaining very much weight. Her daddy was at her side while the tube was inserted through her tiny nose into her stomach. What a relief when the tube was removed the next day. Myself and Kobus were at her side trying to comfort her and giving love to make the eina’s go.
Her new daddy and also her hero took her to choose a frame for her glasses. Just like any other little girl she chose a Barbie frame. The manufacturing company sponsored Rilandi’s frame which was a great relief, since her medical costs were getting the best of my salary. We have appointed a full time nanny for Rilandi who exercises and plays with Rilandi all day long. They are a great team and understand each other.
The seizures stopped for more than two years after she was treated with cortisone and the Sabril medication. Doctors were very negative on any progress. We were advised not to ‘waste’ money on treatments and therapy’s we should just accept the fact. We accepted but also decided not to just let go. Rilandi now has good neck control and is rolling over. Rilandi has special custom made standing frame and splints to correct and encourage her standing and ankles. She now attempts to crawl. Rilandi has her own lovely personality and will definitely show you when she is not happy with a wet nappy or when she’s thirsty she will lick her lips or click with her tongue. She understands when we ask her something and talks to us in her own ‘special’ language.She now starts to put sweets in her mouth after daddy taught her how to suck her thumb, and drinks from a cup, with help.
Rilandi has progressed, and all the glory to God! Rilandi is doing physiotherapy and hydrotherapy weekly and horse riding also bi-weekly.Unfortunately the seizures came back in December 2010. Rilandi’s daily highlight is when her daddy takes her in his arms after her bath at night, she ignores everything and everyone around her, she will look at daddy and laughs when he coughs, if he doesn’t make eye contact she will look at him and start ‘talking’ to him. Klarien must sing to her every day and her favourite song is: ‘Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not strong enough, don’t give up, there’s nothing wrong with just being yourself, that’s more than enough”. When we go to bed at night Rilandi has her own private time with God. I’ll sing her, her ‘Liewe Jesus-songs” while doing movements with her hands. You should also not attempt to sing these songs during the day, you will soon realise that she’s not willing to go to bed, that is bed time songs only!
I would like to encourage parents in my position to ensure they know the reason for a cerebral palsy prognosis. We should not just accept when your child has been diagnosed with a brain condition. Find out the reason behind the prognosis. Work with your child, love him/her unconditionally. Communicate a lot, repeat, repeat, repeat everything you do or say to your child might take 100 times longer for your child to understand. But he/she will eventually, in their own special way they know what is going on around them. God chose us, I did not want to be chosen for this big task, but God wanted to choose me. I did not want to be a special mom… but God wanted me to be one. Why are we chosen for this? Because God only trusts certain special people with special children. Everything about an ‘any-cephally’ child is special. But the facial features all seem to be like that of an angel.
I would love to start a support group for any-cephally children in SA. It seems like the only support groups for this condition are overseas.
She is currently treated by Prof Rodda at Baragwannath.
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[...] Taken from: Epilepsy SA Newsletter – September 2011 [...]